Professional Guidance: Managing Expectations Part 2
- Published: 15 September 2022
Building on the guidance regarding managing expectations begun in the last Escéal, this week the focus is on managing expectations of self. Until we learn to examine the beliefs we have in relation to self, we will never be in a position to manage the expectations of others – either our expectations of them or their expectations of us. When expectations are not met, conflict ensues.
Ask yourself:
Do you expect that as a school leader you must solve every problem?
When someone comes to you with a problem, do you automatically accept it as yours to resolve?
If you fail to resolve an issue, how do you feel?
Others may believe that solving all issues is the remit of the school leader. Do you strive to live up to those expectations? If this is the case what does this do to you in terms of your wellbeing?
How realistic are your expectations of self?
We all need to be careful about our expectations in relation to self and others, because if they are unrealistic it can make life extremely difficult. It does not mean that we lower our standards or do not try to be the best possible leaders we can be. Neither does it mean that you will not do everything possible to support people in resolving their issues.
It is important to communicate what you can and will do to support a resolution. It is equally important to communicate what you cannot do. Do not over promise and under deliver on this.
Be clear what a person can expect of you and what you can expect of that person.
This then means that you let go of the pressure to be perfect.
“I am good enough.” (Actually you are.)
